Creighton University

There are many different components of a healthy relationship.  Only you can be the judge of your relationship, although sometimes the people in the relationship lose an objective outlook on something/someone they are so close to.  Think about your current or past relationship when considering the following questions.

• Does your relationship involve more than physical aspects?
• Can you say that use of alcohol or drugs plays no role in your relationship?
• Does your partner know your joys, expectations, frustrations, dreams, fears?  - Has your partner shown commitment in times of crisis?
• Do you respect each other’s differences?
• Is there mutual respect for each other in all areas?
• Do you both show an equal amount of compromise with each other?
• Is there room for growth in your relationship?
• Do you feel as though your identity has been maintained?
• Have you maintained the friendships that were important to you before this relationship? (friends, family, etc.)
• Are your sexual boundaries respected?
• Is there always mutual consent to sexual interaction?
• Are you aware of your partner’s sexual history?
• Are you remembering your safety and values when making sexual decisions?
• Have you discussed the consequences of sexual activity?
• Has your world expanded since the beginning of this relationship?
• Does your partner compliment you/are you compatible?
• Is there equal trust between you?
• Are you about to talk about things that are important to you?
• Are you able to resolve arguments rationally?
• At the end of arguments do you feel you’ve learned something about each other?
• Can you say that there are no signs of possessiveness or consuming jealousy within this relationship?
• Can you say that you never feel like you’re walking on eggshells around your partner?
• Are you happy with this relationship the majority of the time?
• Do you get along more than not when you spend a long period of time together?
• Are you able to be yourself around your partner?
• Do you make each other laugh?